Dating safety advice from Gay And Single
Being a member of Gay And Single you're probably aware of how best to keep yourself safe online.
Online dating can be a safer experience than traditional dating. It gives you a wider scope of choice and you can remain at a distance until you are ready to meet.
Just to try and help a little, we thought we would remind you of the golden rules that everyone should follow to make Gay And Single as safe a place as possible.
Follow these few simple check points and you'll have nothing to worry about!
Protect Your Personal Information
Keep passwords safe and secret. Choose a password that you can easily remember but would be difficult for anyone else to guess. Childrens' names are easy, but just as easy for someone who knows you to guess too.
Gay And Single has a wonderful messaging system which means you don't need to give out any contact information at all until you're happy to, so don't be afraid to tell someone that you'd rather stick to talking online for a bit longer. If they're genuine then they won't have a problem.
Keeping Your Contact Information Safe
Protect your identity. Use a site like ours that hides your email address and your contact information.
Get to know people through the site before giving out personal contact details.
Report Your Suspicion
Report any suspicious members to our security team ASAP! If you get a funny feeling that someone isn't genuine there is a report member button on every profile page.
If you don't want to speak to someone anymore block them using the block button on their page.
Trust your instincts. If something doesn't feel right, why take a chance. Disengage gracefully, if this does not work, just disengage.
Be Aware Of Online Scammers
If someone you barely know asks to borrow money or asks for any sort of financial details whatsoever, then alarm bells should start to ring. You wouldn't expect someone you met in the pub last week to ask you for money, and you shouldn't expect it online either.
Avoid any talk of finances too readily. There is no reason why you should ever disclose any financial information online.
Don't be lured by requests for financial help, if someone asks you for money even if you have built up a trusting rapport with them, they are almost certainly a scammer.
If you're unsure, ask for a recent photo of who you are talking to.
Be wary of anyone who declares their undying love for you, especially if you have never met them.
Your Dating Profile
Keep it real. Be as honest as you can when creating your profile, you would not want to be misled so don't mislead anyone. It's also very hard to pretend you are 6'2" when you are really 5'6"!
Post a photo, but make sure you cannot identify your family, friends, home or car in it.
Think carefully about what you share online before you post it.
Meeting Up With Somebody New
You think you have met the online date of your dreams or maybe you're just curious but you've agreed to meet. You may be a veteran dater or maybe returning to dating after a relationship has ended but here are some quick words of advice for meeting up.
Arrange to call them at a given time to confirm all's going well. If your date is worth their salt, they will completely understand.
Don't get pushed into a date and certainly don't give over your personal contact details unless you are comfortable to do so. Never give out your home or office address unless you are totally confident that you know and can trust your date.
Avoid anyone who talks about sex or finances before you have even met them. Be wary of anyone who declares undying love for you too readily.
When you meet for those first few dates, choose a neutral public location that is easily accessible to you both and is within view and hearing distance of other people.
Tell someone that you trust who you are meeting, where you are going and what time you plan to be there. If your plans change don't forget to provide an update.
Arrange with someone to 'check in' at regular intervals and have a coded way of telling them how it's going, especially if you need help.If your date is worth their salt, they will completely understand.
Trust your instincts, if you think something is wrong, you should politely make an excuse and leave.
Never rely on your date for transport to or from your meeting place, especially plan your journey home in case you need to leave unexpectedly. Have a taxi number handy if you need one.
If you do have to go home together in a taxi, try to be dropped off last but at least avoid showing your date exactly where you live.
Be careful with alcohol so that you keep your wits about you. If you think your food or drink has been tampered with then don't consume it.
Make sure you have a fully charged phone with enough minutes.
Respect that your date may have the same concerns and don't push them into doing anything they are not comfortable with.
Have Fun Whilst Dating
Remember that dating is fun and the vast majority of singles you meet will be as genuine as you are. Online danger is very rare as long as you trust your instincts and follow these rules you will be absolutely fine.
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